Navigating the Mental Health Challenges of Colleagues in the Workplace
Disclaimer: This article is based on my experience as a health and wellness coach and is not a substitute for professional mental health advice. Please consult a licensed therapist for personalized support.
Creating a healthy workplace requires effort from everyone.
The workplace is a microcosm of society, bringing together individuals with diverse personalities, mental health conditions, and coping mechanisms. While this diversity enriches the environment, it can also lead to challenges, especially when colleagues, coworkers, or managers are navigating personality disorders, mood disorders, mental illness, or trauma. For healthy individuals, working closely with those who are struggling can deeply impact their own well-being, particularly in high-stress environments that already promote chronic stress and burnout.
This article will explore strategies for managing these dynamics, addressing personal responsibility for those with mental health challenges, and practical ways healthy coworkers can offer support while protecting their boundaries.
For Individuals with Mental Health Challenges: Taking Personal Responsibility
Managing a mental health condition in a professional setting can be difficult, but it also comes with a responsibility to minimize the impact on your colleagues and maintain a healthy work environment.
If you’re someone who is managing a personality disorder, mood disorder, mental illness, or the effects of trauma, it's essential to recognize that while mental health struggles are not your fault, you do have a personal responsibility to manage your behavior and mitigate its impact on others. In a workplace, the dynamics you bring to the table can influence not just your own performance but also the overall team culture and the well-being of your coworkers.
Being a Responsible Coworker Looks Like:
Acknowledge Your Impact on Others
Self-awareness is a critical first step. Take time to reflect on how your behavior might affect those around you. Are there moments when your mood shifts suddenly, creating tension?
Do you often demand excessive attention or validation? Acknowledging the potential consequences of these actions is an important part of being a responsible team member.
Seek Help and Commit to Managing Symptoms
Seeking professional help and committing to ongoing treatment—whether it’s therapy, medication, or other interventions—can help you regulate your behavior.
While you might not be able to eliminate the effects of your disorder or trauma entirely, this step not only helps you but also supports your coworkers in avoiding unnecessary stress or disruption caused by untreated symptoms.
Communicate Openly and Clearly
If you're comfortable, consider having a candid conversation with your manager or HR about your challenges and the specific support you need to manage them in the workplace.
You don’t have to share everything, but being clear about what others can do to help you thrive in the workplace—like understanding your need for breaks or offering clear, calm communication when things get heated—can set the foundation for better working relationships.
Manage Expectations
Understand that everyone has different tolerances, especially in a high-stress environment. While your needs are valid, also be mindful of your coworkers’ capacity to handle the impact of your behavior.
If you're feeling emotionally overwhelmed, it's your responsibility to step back, address the situation on your own terms, and avoid escalating matters to a point where others feel they must take on emotional labor that you should manage independently.
Cultivate Empathy and Understanding
It’s essential to recognize that your coworkers may be dealing with their own pressures, stress, and personal lives. Being a thoughtful, considerate team member means taking into account the mental and emotional health of others.
Practice empathy by acknowledging when your behavior may make things difficult for them and taking responsibility for your actions.
For Healthy Coworkers: Supporting Struggling Colleagues
Supporting a colleague who is dealing with a personality disorder, mood disorder, mental illness, or trauma can be a delicate balance. You want to be empathetic and supportive, but you also don’t want to overextend yourself or become a caregiver. Understanding the nature of your coworker's condition, what they might need, and how to offer appropriate support can go a long way in maintaining a healthy, productive work environment without compromising your own well-being.
Here’s how to show up best for struggling coworkers based on different disorders and what they might need:
Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
What to Look For: A person with NPD may exhibit an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for constant admiration, and a lack of empathy. They may react defensively to feedback and demand excessive attention.
What They Might Need: People with NPD typically need validation, acknowledgment, and clear boundaries. While they may be difficult to approach, they also need support in seeing the perspectives of others.
How to Support Them: Offer direct, non-judgmental communication. Give clear, respectful feedback while avoiding confrontation. Reinforce their positive behaviors while setting firm boundaries regarding their demands for attention or praise. Maintain a balance between being supportive and protecting your own emotional health.
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)
What to Look For: Individuals with BPD may experience intense emotional swings, instability in relationships, and fear of abandonment. Their reactions can sometimes be disproportionate to the situation.
What They Might Need: Those with BPD often need reassurance, consistency, and clear boundaries. They may struggle with trust and are sensitive to perceived rejection or abandonment.
How to Support Them: Be patient and consistent. Offer clear, predictable responses and follow through on promises. Avoid making sudden, unexplained changes that could be interpreted as abandonment. It’s also important to communicate calmly when discussing conflicts or issues, being mindful of their sensitivity to emotional cues.
Depression and Anxiety
What to Look For: Colleagues with depression may seem withdrawn, tired, or unmotivated. Anxiety may manifest as excessive worry, restlessness, or difficulty concentrating.
What They Might Need: They may need space to cope with their symptoms, as well as encouragement and understanding from their coworkers. It can also help to reduce stressors in the work environment and offer a sense of stability.
How to Support Them: Be understanding without being overly invasive. If they seem overwhelmed, offer to take on a small task or collaborate on a project to ease their workload. Gently encourage breaks and self-care. Let them know you're available to listen if they want to talk but also respect their need for privacy.
Bipolar Disorder
What to Look For: A person with bipolar disorder may experience extreme mood swings—alternating between periods of manic energy and depressive lows. In the manic phase, they may become impulsive or overly optimistic, while in the depressive phase, they may withdraw and lack motivation.
What They Might Need: Structure and routine are crucial for individuals with bipolar disorder. They may need help managing their workload during manic or depressive episodes, as well as understanding during mood transitions.
How to Support Them: Offer flexibility in deadlines when possible, especially during depressive episodes. Provide feedback in a calm, balanced manner and be patient during periods of mood instability. Be understanding when they may need time to recharge or seek professional support during more intense phases.
Trauma and PTSD
What to Look For: Hypervigilance, emotional reactivity, avoidance of certain tasks or topics, difficulty concentrating.
What They Might Need: Predictability, a safe and calm work environment, and patience when discussing sensitive topics.
How to Support Them: Avoid triggering topics or behaviors, offer clear and direct communication, and create a supportive space where they feel safe to express concerns. Encourage breaks or time to de-escalate if they appear overwhelmed.
Maintain Personal Boundaries: Supporting Without Overextending Yourself
It’s important to set boundaries even as you support struggling coworkers. Here’s how to do so effectively:
Set Emotional Boundaries
Supporting a colleague does not mean taking on their emotional burdens. Recognize when you are becoming overwhelmed or when the dynamic is becoming unhealthy.
It’s essential to separate their struggles from your own mental health.
Offer Help Without Enabling
You can offer support and kindness without becoming responsible for managing your coworker’s mental health.
Help them access appropriate resources—whether it’s suggesting they see a therapist, providing information on employee assistance programs (EAPs), or encouraging them to speak with HR if needed.
Seek Guidance
If you're unsure how to best support a struggling coworker, seek guidance from a manager, HR, or even a mental health professional.
Having clear guidance can help you feel more confident in your approach and ensure that you're not overextending yourself.
Prioritize Your Well-Being
Always make sure you’re taking care of your own mental health first. Set aside time for self-care, work-life balance, and emotional boundaries.
It’s much harder to help others when you’re running on empty, so ensure you’re regularly replenishing your own energy.
When HR Needs to Step In
Human Resources (HR) exists to protect the company, but they also play a role in maintaining a functional workplace.
If a colleague’s behavior becomes toxic or harmful:
Document the Behavior: Keep a record of incidents with specific details to present a clear case.
Report Concerns Professionally: Focus on how the behavior affects work outcomes, not personal grievances.
Understand Your Rights: Familiarize yourself with company policies and employee protections under the ADA or other applicable laws.
Final Thoughts
Creating a healthy workplace requires effort from everyone. Whether you're the one struggling with mental health challenges or you're supporting a coworker who is, maintaining clear boundaries, offering compassion, and knowing when to seek help are all key to fostering a healthier, more productive work environment for everyone.
Individuals with mental health challenges must take responsibility for their impact, while healthy coworkers contribute to a healthy workplace by practicing empathy and setting boundaries. Together, teams can build an environment where everyone can contribute their best, fostering resilience, productivity, and mutual respect in even the most high-stress industries.
It's a delicate balance, but by being mindful of your own needs and those of your coworkers, you can navigate these challenges without compromising your well-being.
Disclaimer:
The information provided in this article is for informational purposes only and is based on my expertise as a health and wellness coach specializing in stress management and burnout recovery. I am not a licensed therapist, psychologist, or medical professional. If you are experiencing significant mental health challenges or believe you may need professional mental health support, I encourage you to consult with a qualified therapist or healthcare provider.
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